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Post by Bluejay on Jun 10, 2010 18:54:29 GMT -5
Hi All,
I'm here too. Full disclosure: I'm on both boards right now. I still have friends on the other side, so I'm haven't gone cold turkey yet. I'd like to let the dust settle and then figure it all out.
Thank you to Greta and Primrose for kicking things off and getting us started here. I value your contributions over the past few months and the old board felt "empty" without you both there.
I'm going to say right off that I'm not religious and sometimes some of the content is "too much" for me personally. But I am respectful of everyone's feelings and belief systems. I would never be confrontational about our differences in that way - hopefully vice versa as well. LA transcends religion and other beliefs and so I think that we can still support each other and learn from our experiences.
Onward, my friends...
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Post by not2bforgot10x on Jun 12, 2010 23:03:06 GMT -5
Hi, my name is Emily. I'm 26 years old. I'm posting because I'm here for support. I'm not sure whether I'm a love addict or not, but I do know that I tend to have codependent tendencies. I tend to always be involved with someone who is emotionally unavailable and too preoccupied with their own interests.
To say the least, I tend to stay way too long in relationships, and I get really hurt in the process, often feeling let down and betrayed. Trust gets shattered.
I am here because I want to learn how to build healthier relationships, beginning with the relationship with myself because that's where it starts.
Thanks!
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Post by iwillsurvive on Jun 13, 2010 2:14:07 GMT -5
Emily, How wonderful that you're addressing your relationship issues at such a young age! Whether you're an LA or not, it would be good to find out why you're drawn to emotionally unavailable men. I have also chosen EUM and I'd like to change that pattern. For me, these EUM are like my father and so I'm replaying my childhood while looking for a happy ending. Also, I fear intimacy because of childhood abuse and that makes EUMs "safe" because we cannot forge a close relationship. Very self-defeating. I like what you wrote about wanting to build a healthier relationship with yourself. I'm working on that too, along with turning all of this over to my higher power. Thanks for sharing your story.
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Post by primrose on Jun 13, 2010 5:20:46 GMT -5
Hey Bluejay! Happy you're here. Personally, I really don't care if people are on the "other" board, or a million different boards. If you're here, I'm happy as I love your posts, and if you're elsewhere and getting support, that's great too. I'm an atheist and like you I have become accustomed to talk about God. I used to hate it, now it is fine for me. Look forward to your input. Very Best. P.
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Post by phoenix on Jun 13, 2010 7:32:13 GMT -5
Welcome N2B~Welcome to the board You wrote "I am here because I want to learn how to build healthier relationships, beginning with the relationship with myself because that's where it starts." Sounds like a worthy goal! Looking forward to your posts. Phoenix
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