Seeing Our POAs for Who They Are

[iwillsurvive]

Love the scorpion and frog story miztex. A great visual of the insanity of LRA. Greta, also really like your dialogue with the POA and your thinking in parentheses. That is EXACTLY what we do. And, as you stated we then follow the POA right down the path of destruction. For me, I want to stop finding man-improvement projects that I want to do an extreme makeover on. (I can fix that.) No, I can't. And I don't want to either. I can only "fix" me as I surrender to God. CJ, it's a triple score because you used the language that trout understands (having been an attorney) to play LRA out in the arena of the court system. Well said.

[trout46]

Thank you miztex, greta and CJ. Stupid, stupid, stupid... Exclusively an emotionally charged experience.

I remain amazed at the radically change in perception. A number of years ago--in my idealistic and impressionable youth (because I DON"T DO IMPRESSIONABLE ANY MORE!)--I was captivated by the whole "doors of perception" thing. It even informed the kind of academic work I got into. I say this because I have just experienced a definite paradigm shift, a new reality. Ant the new understanding continues to explain many pieces that I couldn't previously understand--from early red flags that I dismissed, to the way we broke up,the POA's preoccupation with my feelings about W#1...lots and lots of things.

In the final analysis, I can only be profoundly greatful to God for my deliverance, and to all of you for guidling me along the very painful and difficult course of recovery.

[g]

Yes Trout, Thank God we're all here and have finally opened our eyes to the insanity of it all.

G

[CJ]

Trout - What is the "doors of perception thing"?

The trophy wife thing comes up all the time with NPD and BPD. Poa used to complain all the time that all of my predecessors only wanted a trophy, but I was different because I understood her and really loved her. Of course, at the end I was accused of only wanting a trophy. I see the same thing on NPD and BPD Boards all the time. I wonder if they view themselves in that way to prevent from having to empathize with their partner? If the partner views them as a trophy, an object, they are justified in any action they take in response.

[trout46]

CJ: In answer to your question re "the doors of perception:"

Circa, 1970, related to the major cultural shifts taking place in the U.S., Aldous Huxley's book, The Doors of Perception" helped to establish a significant cult following/movement that was largely informed by psychedelic experiences (per use of mescaline/peyote). In addition, a UCLA grad student doing research for his Ph.D. dissertation wrote what became a best selling book, The Teachings of Don Juan, which described his (largely psychedelic) training in shamanism. You can add to that Timothy Leary's LSD following, etc.
Many academics, especially in anthropology and sociology, developed entirely new theoretical paradigms focusing on the social construction of reality, which relativized the notion of reality (that had previously been regarded as objective and certain).

Aren't you glad you asked?

[CJ]

Thanks Trout. To what paradigm did you shift?

[g]

Hmmm...Trout, I imagine you'll tell us more about the subject when our new website is up and running

Iìm really looking forward to learning more abou tthe doors of perception theme.

G