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Post by sexlessw on Jul 15, 2010 15:24:46 GMT -5
Miztex:
I knew you wouldn't contact him! I just knew it.
So did your subconscious (sp) - as illustrated by your dream.
Those birthdays, anniversaries, holidays - what triggers!
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Post by miztex on Jul 23, 2010 1:05:03 GMT -5
Hi all,
A friend from the old days called today. We started talking and the whole story about POA came out. She knew him back then. She said "Girlfriend, you REALLY dodged a bullet. Did you that his ex went to prison for kidnapping, welfare fraud, and cruelty to children?!!! His next wife married him and then ran off in 2 weeks with everything he owned. He is a walking disaster. Run away, Run away! " I happily reported that I had been NC in person for a year, and NC at ALL for 4 months. She replied "He won't give up on you. He'll just wait until you come back. " I said "That ain't gonna EVER happen." She said "I sure hope you mean it. He is scary."
And folks, that is the God's truth! He IS scary! And I can see it now. I am reading some FABULOUS books about Narcissism. I will include some great quotes from the books soon. One book is called "You might be a Narcissist if....." and another is called "Narcissistic Lovers" Another is "The Wizard of OZ and other Narcissists." More stuff later. It is very late and I am turning into a pumpkin.
love,
miztex
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Post by CJ on Jul 23, 2010 8:12:19 GMT -5
Hi Miztex,
Well done, dodging that train wreck. I do not need to tell you that if he is truly a narcissist there is no limit to the number of people he will hurt to satisfy his need for attention and the closest person to him will be the one most hurt.
You probably already know about it, but there are several Boards for Narcissistic Personality Disorder and those involved with them (the "non's"). I will post a link to my favorite in the resources thread.
When I have more time I will start a thread on Narcissistic PD and Borderline PD. I think it could be interesting and helpful, particularly to those are victims of these disorders but do not understand them (I was in that category for a long time).
Take care, CJ
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Post by knowlove on Jul 23, 2010 8:53:41 GMT -5
Miz, thanks for sharing! It sounds like you can really see your POA clearly for what he is. Good for you!! Love the title of the books. lol I always enjoy hearing what other's therapists say or what they read in books as it helps me very much! Keep posting and reading. Sounds like you are in a good place! very happy for you!
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Post by g on Jul 23, 2010 9:05:10 GMT -5
Miztex hon, well you know my story really well...what can I say but RUN!!! G
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Post by miztex on Jul 23, 2010 14:27:08 GMT -5
Greta, (hug) We are survivors, you and I. I believe we had to be in order to share with the next poor souls who encounter these sick, twisted soul-less vampires. Our experiences give strength to others. And THAT is something good that came out of all this. Other good things that happened: 1. Met you and my other friends on the board. 2. Got closer to my family after identifying my own narcissistic behaviors and co-dependency. 3. Got my life back on track. 4. Learned how to reach out to others and LISTEN! Developing my own empathy has GOT to be good for others, right? 5. Found my HP and my self-esteem again. 6. Learned that my mom is an N and was able to realize that all those years of hearing my "problems" were a projection of "HER" problems. Learning how to let go now. CJ, thanks for your support. I love the idea of a Narcissistic thread. I definitely want to contribute to that. Let me know what to do. Got some great Literature and quotes.
Knowlove, I like your quote in the box "The worst thing in life is to be nobody to anybody." How do I do a quote like that on my box?
miztex
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Post by g on Jul 23, 2010 14:35:23 GMT -5
Miz, Click on 'profile icon', top right.
next, click on 'modify profile,
I think what you are looking for is 'signature'. Write what you like in there and then save changes. G
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