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Post by rickfaith on Jul 15, 2010 19:45:21 GMT -5
i guess....dont we all have problems with the first step... I do almost daily.
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Post by quinn on Jul 15, 2010 22:12:23 GMT -5
I have never formally done the steps either. I have some of them through books. Never all of them, and not with a sponsor. But I'm not anti-steps either. In fact, someday I plan to actually do all of them instead of just reading them, but for now therapy and books and this group is my recovery program.
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Post by moonlight on Jul 16, 2010 9:18:54 GMT -5
Hi everybody!
I've "done" the steps in OA and made many, many adjustments in the phrasing along the way, so I felt comfortable with them. I believe very much in personalizing the steps.
And I do agree for me it's best to concentrate on what does work. So to see the positive.
I really understand the need to take the space to be critical, to have a different opinion than the rest of the group instead of keeping silent and feeling like I pushed away something essential inside of me. I think the more tolerant the board is, the less I feel this need. I feel accepted and loved no matter what.
Having said this: I can really really recommend taking the steps (in whichever way translation feels comfortable for you!)!! But of course there are more ways that lead to Rome, none of us is better or wiser or further along than another. And if by any luck I am very wise today, you can be sure that tomorrow I'm thinking so highly of myself that I'll do something very unwise. Which is fine.
Moonlight
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Post by serenity on Jul 16, 2010 9:45:44 GMT -5
Acceptance, acceptance, acceptance of ourselves. Thanks Moonlight, you could have read my mind in what you wrote, bizarre how sometimes you feel you just don't have the words to express how you feel and then someone says something which you feel the same way about. Love that.
Vee
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Post by sexlessw on Jul 16, 2010 13:23:28 GMT -5
T/J to KnowLove:
Indeed I know EXACTLY what you mean!
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Post by moonlight on Jul 16, 2010 13:25:06 GMT -5
Vee, that's great!! Love to have you guys. Moonlight
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