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Post by rickfaith on Jul 23, 2010 19:01:55 GMT -5
Thanks so much for that. I am a survivor yes...and need to keep on keepin' on.
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Post by iwillsurvive on Jul 23, 2010 19:58:04 GMT -5
You're welcome Rick! I am a survivor too. I used to joke that I didn't need to find someone to abuse me because I was pretty good at abusing myself. It's not that funny though. I am learning to be my own best friend and to receive love and acceptance from God so that my heart is filled and not looking for a POA fix. One day at a time.
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Post by rickfaith on Jul 23, 2010 21:40:52 GMT -5
i have serious abandonbement issues...makes me insecure, jealous, and so on. Tomrrow gf is goinbg to an all day festival, bands etc...i dont want to go for that ,long and so she is going aklone...and it is seriously triggering my abandonment.... like almost like her goinbg to nightclub which has always been scary for me...and i expressed my fear and niow afraid she will use this to hurt me as she has used my fears in past to do so. I will just be alone all day ...all weekend...and everyone else will have fun... nice to have this sickn ess eh?
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hiddenme
New Member
Onward and upward through the fog....
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Post by hiddenme on Dec 28, 2010 22:55:23 GMT -5
Hello, I am about six weeks into NC. For awhile it was easier to stop the obsessive thoughts. It has been harder recently...maybe due to the holidays. I was a little surprised and disappointed that I did not get any message from him wishing me a Merry Christmas. I have used the rubber band technique, it helps some. I also watched funny TV shows on DVD for days on end. The distraction was great. I noticed an hour or two went by without me thinking of him . The laughter made my soul lighter. I appreciate the suggestions offered here.
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Post by moonlight on Jan 1, 2011 7:58:30 GMT -5
Hi hiddenme
For me it was always harder in holidays too, especially in winter when the light was low. What works for me is to remember that "this too shall pass". If I just keep on putting one foot in front of the other, at some point my burden will be lifted from me.
All the best and many congratulations for having made it thus far, six weeks is a great achievement!
Love, ML
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