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Post by g on Jun 13, 2010 4:18:46 GMT -5
Please post your suggestions for getting through withdrawals on this thread.
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Post by sexlessw on Jun 14, 2010 19:27:21 GMT -5
1. All yourself to cry. Because in reality, you will be sobbing, like somebody has come into your home and beaten you.
2. Make sure there is somebody IRL that you can call.
3. Breath. You will need to breath to keep air in your body- no mean feat when you're sobbing.
4. Keep away from alcohol.
5. Write about what you're feeling AFTER you're done being in the fetal position (that's not a joke).
6. Try to drink non-alcoholic drinks. Crying dehydrates you.
7. Make yourself see the sun rise. For if you can see the sun come up, that means you are going to live to see the next day and the next day and the day after that.
Withdrawal is NO JOKE. It's serious. Another suggestion, if you're feeling suicidal, call a suicide prevention hotline. I did that once and it helped me at that moment.
The best suggestion, as I listed above, is MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A LIFELINE when the withdrawal hits bad. A person or people who will be there to hold your hand when the waves of sadness crawl in.
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Post by lotus on Aug 12, 2010 13:08:21 GMT -5
My suggestion is to be easy on yourself. Take time off of work to relax, if that's what you need. Or keep going to work, if that helps you stay in reality. Realize that you are healing from a sickness and taking care of yourself is number one priority.
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Post by CJ on Aug 12, 2010 16:16:22 GMT -5
I occasionally have periods of difficulty, but those days of constant, gut-wrenching pain and obsession seem to be gone. It is hard to know precisely how. Certainly, time and distraction played a part. I think, however, the most important elements were my family and friends. Those people who listened to me play that broken record over and over, didn't judge me or try to tell me to do (well, they did a little), just listened and let me know they wouldn't throw their hands up and walk away. It was when I was able to share with a dear friend some of the issues in my past that seem to underlie my LA that I found a dramatic change. I know I have much to resolve and many hills to climb, but the worst of it is over.
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Post by lawhope on May 16, 2011 22:39:55 GMT -5
Hi, I am pretty new to this group; I'm trying this one along with a couple others. I guess it helps me to believe the more support I can have as well as support others, the better. It's good to know I'm not alone as a love addict. I've been experiencing more withdrawals lately; it just seems it lasts soo long; it makes no sense to me. I've kept going back and forth over and over with my ex, and it just kills me. Five days ago I found one the best helpful workbooks on withdrawal ever. In fact, i couldn't find any kind of workbook like this on withdrawing from love addiction. I'm reading it and working on some amazing tools that is (at least today) is helping me destroy the irratinal thoughts and lies we tend to make up in our obsessions when w're going through this. For any members gong through the pain as i have lately from withdrawing, so far this workbook seems like a miracle. I won't explain what it has, too much; but you can learn more about it at this website I found www.loveaddictionhelp.com. The workbook is called Surviving Withdrawal: Break up Workbook for Love Addicts. Hers is a link to the page, www.loveaddictionhelp.com/surviving_withdrawal |
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Post by g on May 17, 2011 15:05:29 GMT -5
Thanks lawhope and welcome to our group.
I'm not suffering from withdrawals as such but obsessing pretty badly at the moment. Will click on that link now and see if it can help me too.
G
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Post by primrose on May 18, 2011 7:02:12 GMT -5
Dear Lawhope, Hi and welcome to the site. I am sorry to hear you're still struggling with withdrawal. It is so painful. I'm glad the book you are reading is helping. As it's an outside source you recommend you could put a specific thread on it in our forum for outside help. I look forward to hearing your recovery story.
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Post by moonlight on May 18, 2011 17:05:56 GMT -5
Hi Lawhope, welcome to the group!
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Post by jphcbpa on Mar 28, 2012 11:49:48 GMT -5
In recent days it helps me to turn my cell phone off in the evenings. It helps me just be and try to connect with W and family. It helps with the limited contact with POA. You know that text or email you get and you just want so badly to respond, but keep it in your head all night and cannot sleep. Yes, that got very old for me.
What I have found however is that the POA gets passive aggressive with text as too why I did not respond to her text.
Also reading a book (Facing Love Addiction) has been helping me fall asleep at night and rest better.
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