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Post by admin on Aug 15, 2010 14:48:27 GMT -5
What is withdrawal? Write a short history of what has happened to you at the end of your relationships. Has the pain been so terrible that you've started up a new relationship so you don't have to feel it? Have you over-eaten, under-eaten, drunk too much, spent too much? Have you done things that are destructive to you just to try and take the edge off the pain? If so, this can help you see how abandonment is horrific for you, and it will help you see how you are vulnerable when you are rejected. Withdrawal happens when a person's drug is removed. For me, as a LRA my drug was my POA and when I stopped contact with him I went into physical and emotional withdrawal. I had night sweats, I felt utterly bereft, I couldn't function properly.
Seeing how you've behaved when you've been rejected will help you prepare for your current withdrawal. Withdrawal is a time where self care is especially important, be mindful of this when you look at your distracting behaviours. When you write your top lines think about ways you can be good to yourself.
Examples of Top Lines:
I will eat three healthy meals a day and not overeat. I will exercise regularly and keep myself clean and healthy. (Don't feel ashamed if you can barely shower or brush your teeth, you're not alone) I will do something nice for myself that is free rather than buy cosmetics. I will take a lunchbreak and call a recovery friend.
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Post by jphcbpa on Apr 9, 2012 10:12:01 GMT -5
"abandonment is horrific for you, and it will help you see how you are vulnerable when you are rejected." love this...right now a part of me wants to act out and find someone new to fill this void/hole. but i know that will be a short term fix to a long term problem.
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