Post by g on Aug 21, 2010 6:10:20 GMT -5
We were discussing the male (or female) gaze and how we should deal with it if we get high off it and Primrose suggested we start a thread.
Personally, I like being looked at. Glanced at would be more accurate. I was never aware of it as a young woman
( Not entirely true because Italian boys were notorious for flirting and making comments whenever I was on holiday. But they do that with all the girls so nobody takes it seriously. I certainly never believed they were being sincere about my looks or my desirability)
Maybe now it's my h's lack of attention or affection in public makes me want to get validation elsewhere. I don't normally 'act out' or flirt with a man that looks at me. I make it clear with my own behaviour when any gaze is inappropriate IMO.
I'd really would like to hear others' opinions on this and get a discussion going on our bottomlines in general.
G
Personally, I like being looked at. Glanced at would be more accurate. I was never aware of it as a young woman
( Not entirely true because Italian boys were notorious for flirting and making comments whenever I was on holiday. But they do that with all the girls so nobody takes it seriously. I certainly never believed they were being sincere about my looks or my desirability)
Maybe now it's my h's lack of attention or affection in public makes me want to get validation elsewhere. I don't normally 'act out' or flirt with a man that looks at me. I make it clear with my own behaviour when any gaze is inappropriate IMO.
I'd really would like to hear others' opinions on this and get a discussion going on our bottomlines in general.
G