POWERLESS

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I'm becoming increasingly aware that I am totally powerless over what others think and write about me.

This board came to life because we wanted a fellowship that could really work together. That's what we, as a group, have been doing for over a month now. Putting our heads together, sometimes through the night, to work out ways to allow an online fellowship to thrive and grow.

I'm handing all this over to my HP as I need all the energy I have to work on recovery. Thank you God for keeping me sane and helping me not to run to my POA for comfort to numb the pain I'm feeling right now. My POA is not the answer now and never was (not even when I first got involved with him again. )

You alone, God, are the answer. Please guide me and allow me to trust fully in Your will for me and this fellowship.
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[trout46]

Many events and circumstances bring us right back to the beginning--step one and powerlessness and unmanageability. I can very much relate Greta. There are so many things that I am powerless over in my life. The most difficult thing for me is acknowledging it before, left to my own devices and tendencies, I create a mess of things or of myself. As simple as it is, beginning the day with the Serenity Prayer, and thinking through life's events and circumstances in terms of acceptance, courage, and wisdom, can literally change my trajectory as I begin to act. This, and surrender to our HP are, to me, the things that can make the difference between a peaceful, happy day, and one filled with anger, frustration, and anxiety.

[sexlessw]

Greta, Trout46:

I'm hearing the both of you. It took me a LONG time to "Get" I cannot control what others think, do or say about me. All I can do is worry about what I do - live life as best I can, not hurting others, attempting to forgive those who hurt me (there are a few where schadenfreude has been a blessing - ha ha ha) and focusing on myself.

Focusing on the self is a positive way, IMO, to allow other things to fall into place. Self focus leads to serenity. Again, IMO.

Can't tell you how many years it's taken me to reach that conclusion.

[knowlove]

My favorite saying-We cannot control what others do or say but we can control how we react. It can be very difficult and hurtful when we feel attacked but how we react makes the situation what it is. Had to do this recently and learned saying nothing was best way. The other person looked bad and I let him spew his words. You are a good person and HP is with you. HE will take care of it for you. Things will play out as they should.