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Post by serenity on Jul 14, 2010 3:53:41 GMT -5
I was doing facial exercise this morning randomnly as i thought of getting old!! how funny, must keep it up.
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Post by quinn on Jul 14, 2010 9:41:37 GMT -5
Prim and Iwillsurvive—thanks so much for your kind words. I do believe I am the best thing that ever happened to my stbx and that it is a tragedy he couldn't recognize my growth as a positive thing for me/us. I feel very loved and validated to hear similar thoughts from you guys. As for all you facial exercisers—I have never heard of this. What is it? And how do you do it? I'm perfectly okay with being 50, but would never want to deny my face a little extra help.  |
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Post by g on Jul 14, 2010 10:08:18 GMT -5
Facial Exercises are brill. Quinn.
You can start by going on youtube and looking for facial yoga. Loads of free stuff to get started. Another thing I do 'religiously' is tanaka face massage. Thanks to all the lovely pointers from Primrose its become one of my favourite pastimes/ hobbies/ beauty treatments ever.
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Post by lotus on Jul 14, 2010 18:45:06 GMT -5
I'm turning 30 next month and am taking the perspective that I can finally be a grown up now. I don't need to be a child anymore with my addictions and bad habits that I developed as a child. Of course I do still worrying about the stuff that comes with aging...wrinkles, decreasing health, etc. For my birthday I'm going to celebrate my new adult-hood by reliving childhood one last time: ice cream sundaes, a pinata, and video games. I hope my guests will be as enthusiastic as me about such a silly party =)
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Post by iwillsurvive on Jul 14, 2010 20:48:52 GMT -5
I am totally going to youtube to look for facial exercises. Love that concept and it does start healing, part of loving yourself and self care. It's amazing the things you learn on this site. Thanks greta and prim! Lotus, I think your 30th party theme sounds really cool. After all, it is great to be childlike (at any age). It's the childish behavior that can be troublesome. Party it up Lotus! Let us know how it goes.
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Post by sexlessw on Jul 15, 2010 15:50:08 GMT -5
Lotus - well, I'm going to go into child mode - boo hoo hoo! I want an icecream sundae and darnnit! I wanna play a videogame! WAA!
30 ain't as bad as, oh, I don't know - 80? Or is 80 good?
Seriously, I want to answer the first questions you posted in your initial post.
"What are some of your triggers?"
Finding out women in my DH's family are pregnant. DH was never able to give me a child biologically, so it hurts me to see others in his family having a baby like it's no big deal. It is to me.
[just found out DH's SIL is on baby #3]
"How is your awareness about triggers?"
I can't change other people. They do as they do; I do as I do. If they're having another child, that does not impact my life. But it still is a reminder of how my DH has failed me as a man.
"Are you able to dig deeper and find out what's really going on?"
No need to dig. It's at the surface. I've moved past my anger and accepted that I will never have a baby with my DH. Acceptance came only after anger and a few other failed adoption attempts.
"How do you use your HP in these situations? "
I thank HP that I DO NOT have too many children. I could not imagine my life right now with two or three children. Our adopted son who is high-functioning autistic takes alot out of us. I am thankful to the HP that we have the means to provide for him - and only him.
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