Assertiveness

[lotus]

I'm learning about assertiveness right now. Aggressiveness is when you try to force your will on people and the world. Passiveness is when you let people and the world control you. Assertiveness is the middle ground. You stand up for yourself, without forcing your will.

I think this is a very salient issue for love addicts. I will let you know if I learn anything from the workbook I got that hasn't already been covered here.

The reason I got the workbook is that I tend to be passive. I don't speak up sometimes when I know I should. I let others lead too much. This is a new realization for me. I can thank recovery for this realization about myself, and I can thank recovery for actually doing something about it.

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I agree, Lotus. When we get into recovery it seems to be all about breaking our addiction at first but then we really get to know ourselves.
What seemed to me to be a problem relating to only one person at one very difficult time in my life has actually turned out to be something that has probably affected me throughout my 47 years and in almost every area of my life.
Looking forward to reading what you find out.
G