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Post by g on Jul 22, 2010 2:53:58 GMT -5
Forgiveness is not the same as Forgetting
I know that if I forget a wrong that has been done to me I will be doomed to repeat the same mistake in future.
I agree it's counterproductive to dwell on something somebody has done or said to me that hurt me badly, but I also need to remember that reopening the door to that person could expose me to more hurt.
Recovery for me means learning from my mistakes, letting go of anger, bearing no grudges against others, but MOVING FORWARD not backwards.
This fellowship is a group of people who want to move forward together in harmony and to avoid unnecessary confrontation or disruption. My life has been full of chaos and drama for three years. I know I'm luckier than most of you here as I've been blessed by a relatively tranquil existence but I need tranquillity more than anything else now and thank God, I've found it here in this new fellowship with you.
I hope we continue to prosper and are able to get back to Step work as soon as possible, finally leaving all other distractions behind us.
Forgive those who have hurt us? Yes, of course!
Forget and make the same mistakes all over again? That would mean moving backwards, not forward. So no, we must never forget old hurts, just hand them over to God and let Him take care of things for us. G
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Post by serenity on Jul 22, 2010 4:25:01 GMT -5
Amen
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Post by sexlessw on Jul 22, 2010 5:56:34 GMT -5
Greta:
If we "forget" (for lack of a better verb) what others have done to us - good or bad - then we fail to progress. By remembering and learning from experiences, we are able to keep moving forward and using that information to bettre ourselves.
Just like learning NOT to touch a hot stove.
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Post by quinn on Jul 22, 2010 10:12:28 GMT -5
Absolutely. We MUST NOT forget or we are doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over again. Forgetting is the same thing as going unconscious and that is never good. But without forgiveness we are equally doomed—to stay chained to those whom we refuse to let go of.
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