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Post by primrose on Oct 27, 2011 8:42:39 GMT -5
This is an horrific film of babies without mothers from the 50s. It is heartbreaking to see what happens to children without any love. When I think that my mother went through something very similar as once her mother died it was thought that my mother was ill and would die and wasn't touched, it is just terrible. No wonder she has such dreadful attachment issues and couldn't bond with me. And no wonder I have struggled so much. www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=VvdOe10vrs4 |
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Post by g on Oct 27, 2011 11:45:20 GMT -5
This made me cry. I asked my mum the other day what had happened to my dad's mother. I know his mum died when he was a baby but I wasn't sure what had caused it. Turns out she had a heart attack.
My dad is a loving man and very generous with his time towards everyone in my family. he's been hard working and always been there for us but I don't think I've had a proper conversation with him. EVER. I know he loves me and cares about me and my kids and that he is hurt by my husband's behaviour but he never criticises my h or says anything negative about him.
I can see now that as a child he was probably neglected even though his sisters took care of him. he has always been reluctant to go and see them as we were growing up and I could never really understand that. he's not close to his brother either which is kind of weird considering he gets on well with my mother's brothers and sisters and most other people.
I think my LA and POA problems (throughout my life) have been caused by me trying to get my head round the fact that a man may seem to be very open to being with me and spending time with me but they just won't 'let me in'. I'm tearful writing this (what else is new? LOL)
Poor dad. Losing his mum so early and not being able to really accept love from anyone.
And here's me who has spent most of her love life trying to give love to exactly the same kind of man.
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Post by primrose on Oct 28, 2011 3:32:04 GMT -5
Ah G, that is so sad about your father, poor man having no mother. I really feel for him, and also for you. I also have that feeling (with my mother) of having the physical proximity to a person but being shut out. Actually, it has been the thing that my father used to get angry with my mother about most of all - that she totally shut him out emotionally.
I think losing your mother as a baby must be so horrendously painful, it must be that you lose your whole world.
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