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Post by primrose on Jun 10, 2010 17:45:34 GMT -5
Hi!! Lovely that you're here KB could you put that suggestion on the What Are We thread? So we could vote there on it? Really like that! Am tired. So impressed with this board already. Is my husband's birthday, have had a nice evening with him and we're planning to go to the country this weekend, will be good to get out of the city. I have had drama at work to deal with so it's all been a bit much. And tomorrow have to work next to where my POA lives when he's in my city. Right next door. Bit triggering really. Perhaps I'll feel nothing, you never know. Would love that. Love to all LAs and HUGS. P.
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Post by admin on Jun 10, 2010 17:48:04 GMT -5
This was posted by Greta: I can no longer keep my head up. nearly 1am here and have had no sleep since....em...well I didnt sleep last night either so... Anyway, I will be back on tomorrow morn if not sooner cos I'm feeling really happy about our new renewed fellowship and I'm full of hope fr us all on our jouney to health. Long exam day tomorrow (I'm examining but will probably keel over at some stage ) but will not be able to stay away from the board for long. Not that I'm addicted or anything.... Love and God's blessings to you all lovely fellow LAs
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Post by kelleyboy on Jun 10, 2010 17:59:01 GMT -5
Will do P
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Post by quinn on Jun 10, 2010 20:49:26 GMT -5
Hi Phoenix. LOVE your new phoenix avatar!
A question—PMs were being read by others??? Could someone please tell me about this and what else exactly happened? Or post a summary somewhere? I couldn't figure out anything on the other site except that some people had been kicked off.
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Post by phoenix on Jun 10, 2010 22:42:57 GMT -5
Hey Rick...do a search online for free avatars, cut and paste the code on modify your profile, set the avatar size to 100 height, 100 width.
I could help you find one if you need help...do you know what you want your avatar to be? If you know I will try to find a link to one and PM it to you. Phoenix
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Post by primrose on Jun 11, 2010 4:45:44 GMT -5
Ha! Am happy. Just walked past POAs place, not even a rush. Nothing. Have avoided this part of the city for so long. Didn't feel anything much. I got wet as it's raining, that's all. And now am having coffee (decaf of course Rick ) in a place my POA has breakfast and it's just a regular nice cafe. No high for me here. Well this is nice and I'm grateful for my programme. Places are very powerful for me. I'm very sensitive to energies and atmosphere. If I don't feel anything, it means there's nothing to feel. This part of the city has it's own intensity but it isn't connected to my POA as it used to be. Yay! P.
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Post by phoenix on Jun 11, 2010 6:42:33 GMT -5
Hi All~Not sure where to post specific question so I 'm hoping its OK to post questions here for now. I am new to 12 step programs & I have my first meeting of co-addicts next week.
I am going to need a sponsor IRL. How is that done, does someone offer to be my sponsor, or do I ask someone? If I choose how do I know who would be a good sponsor?
Will I be expected to speak at my first meeting? Any info would be appreciated. Phoenix
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Post by primrose on Jun 11, 2010 7:42:47 GMT -5
Hi! You don't have to speak if you don't want to. With sponsors, I choose people I like. I listen carefully to their recovery and if I like what they have, I'll ask them. In my experience the less showy people are usually good uns. I've always been very lucky with sponsors and I think that's because I have trusted my instinct with people in meetings. It's there for a reason, so if you feel you could trust a person, that's usually a good sign P.
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Post by serenity on Jun 11, 2010 8:07:07 GMT -5
Hi everyone, its vee. I always wanted to use the name serenity so now we've changed boards this is my new user name but obviously still call me vee.
It took me a while to find you all but its so great to see everyone is making there way here so that we can get back to supporting one another.
I'm feeling.... a bit anxious but staying close to God and when i get home i'll do a meditation to help me.
Blessings, Vee
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Post by admin on Jun 11, 2010 8:55:10 GMT -5
This was posted by Greta
Hi Vee! Great to see you here. You got your 5 stars like all of us cos we are all equal here. No heirarchy here as we are all creating this fellowship together. So glad you came xxx
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Post by knowlove on Jun 11, 2010 10:42:31 GMT -5
So Happy to see the people coming that I would have so missed from the other board. This is what it is all about right? Fellowship and being there for each other. Vee so glad you and phonenix are here!!!!!! Prim how awesome is that that you can walk by and not feel anything! Someday I know my feelings will be like that. POA has been pinging me and frankly instead of making me high it makes me more indifferent (thank God). I am actually getting a bit annoyed although I care for him but finding the FEELINGS od wanting him are going very quickly :+))) YAY!!! I still have my fantasies but am realizing my inner child wants to hold on to them and not let them go. I feel like I do it just to do it but the feelings arent really there. Does tihs make sense to anyone? What I'm used to doing for sooooooo long. Dodge understand that swapping obsessions for another. Have to have SOMEONE to obsess over, right? You are definitely doing the right thing. This has been my problem as well for years and years. Never HAD to act on them except maybe flirting but out and out seeking them out to get that attention to feed it. Can't believe how much I am learning about myself. Only problem is I don't know how to turn the switch off. It's like my body or my brain WANT that obsession and fantasizing. Trying to figure out how to end that need.
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Post by quinn on Jun 11, 2010 12:07:37 GMT -5
Having a bit of a hard day. POA just emailed to say he doesn't want the cat and wants me to take him. I knew this was going to happen. I have already taken two of our other animals and don't know how I'm going to be able to find rentals to live in with three, plus the cat I left with POA doesn't get along with the others. If I say no, I'm scared he's going to dump cat who is 12 years old and will most certainly be killed at a shelter as unadoptable. This is HIS cat by the way, the one he begged us to get, the one he called "my boy." But we did get him when we were together. I have known and loved this cat for 12 years. I am so f&cked up over what to do.
The good news is that with this latest action POA has destroyed my love for him. He has revealed his utter, total inability to care for anyone or anything. Even one cat is too much attachment and responsibility for him. What the H@ll was I doing being married to him?
Other good news is I have therapy today so I will be able to get some help figuring out what to do. And I have this board to come to. I have so much gratitude in my heart for you all.
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Post by moonlight on Jun 11, 2010 13:21:18 GMT -5
I've been chatting with a guy online. Now we haven't spoken for 7 days. My fantasy was already ahead of me (at least into a relationship). So I feel disappointed and a bit frustrated. Good lesson in patience though. Moonlight
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Post by phoenix on Jun 11, 2010 15:09:14 GMT -5
Veeeeeeeeeeeeee!! I didn't realize Vee was Serenity!
So glad you're here with us.
Phoenix
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Post by recovery1st on Jun 11, 2010 16:10:26 GMT -5
I feel empowered. Went to a recovery meeting last night & wow, was it good! It was for anything recovering from anything & it hit home exactly. I feel lifted & motivated. Prior to the meeting I was leaning more toward the low side.
My most important meeting of the week is LAA but they are not available in my area...yet. So hitting relevant recovery meetings in between has been wonderful fuel in between toward my healing.
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